Meeting that special person in a world filled with weird creeps is not always easy and when you do find someone with whom you feel a connection, you want to try and make sure that the flame burns and does not get blanketed with failure before it has a chance to be launched. Often first dates are about letting the person get a general overview of you, like someone getting a syllabus on the first day of class, and it is important that the presentation of you is a good and favorable one. Surely they have already had a good impression of you if a date was even initiated, but now the first date is like the first chance for you to really see if that impression was right and if this has a future.
Some things to talk about on a first date might be basic things you would not mind anyone knowing. You don't want to share too much on a first date, though everyone has dark secrets and a history and past riddled with unpleasant or sometimes bizarre events and situations, the first date is not the forum for those particulars. Instead, stay with the basics, the normal aspects of you, the good aspects, the parts of you that if broadcasted before the entire restaurant would not make you squeamish or others uncomfortable. Save all the gritty details for later, but sharing all of that now would only make that person feel a little bombarded with personal information. You must slowly get into knowing it like dipping toes into the water before taking a dive.
So, tell them about your family, what you do, what your interests are. Be careful not to be the only one talking the entire time, because you don't want this to be like a sales campaign for you. This is also about the other person, getting to know each other, so be sure you do ask them questions, too, and not just reiterating the same questions they asked you, but make sure you ask fresh, thoughtful ones so that they know you are really caring about what they are interested in and what they are all about.
Another good tip is to make sure you look presentable. This doesn't mean get ready for the Queen's ball, but make sure you have taken a shower and have worn deodorant and have brushed your hair and worn something presentable. Appearance should not be the most important thing but in this world it has a lot to do with how people perceive you and if you come in dressed like a drunken sailor, you will certainly not provide a good impression. Body odor is an attraction killer, so no matter how wonderful your heart is, the other person will never know because they will be dying from the toxic fumes. You need to make sure that you take care of these little things because they have a big impact on a successful date.
Some things to talk about on a first date might be basic things you would not mind anyone knowing. You don't want to share too much on a first date, though everyone has dark secrets and a history and past riddled with unpleasant or sometimes bizarre events and situations, the first date is not the forum for those particulars. Instead, stay with the basics, the normal aspects of you, the good aspects, the parts of you that if broadcasted before the entire restaurant would not make you squeamish or others uncomfortable. Save all the gritty details for later, but sharing all of that now would only make that person feel a little bombarded with personal information. You must slowly get into knowing it like dipping toes into the water before taking a dive.
So, tell them about your family, what you do, what your interests are. Be careful not to be the only one talking the entire time, because you don't want this to be like a sales campaign for you. This is also about the other person, getting to know each other, so be sure you do ask them questions, too, and not just reiterating the same questions they asked you, but make sure you ask fresh, thoughtful ones so that they know you are really caring about what they are interested in and what they are all about.
Another good tip is to make sure you look presentable. This doesn't mean get ready for the Queen's ball, but make sure you have taken a shower and have worn deodorant and have brushed your hair and worn something presentable. Appearance should not be the most important thing but in this world it has a lot to do with how people perceive you and if you come in dressed like a drunken sailor, you will certainly not provide a good impression. Body odor is an attraction killer, so no matter how wonderful your heart is, the other person will never know because they will be dying from the toxic fumes. You need to make sure that you take care of these little things because they have a big impact on a successful date.
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